Powerful Women

I first posted this article in November of 2012, one-year-to-the-day before my beloved wife Carol passed from this world.  She and our colleagues (you know who you are) were the inspiration, and this piece is as true today as it was then.

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For thirty years I have worked and studied in the world of abused women and children. Historically it has been a profession of few men. For those women and few men who daily work in the trenches of child abuse, the pay is low, the stress is high, and we are born of a shared Mission .

We save lives, ease pain, and give healing assistance to those children and adults of every race and religion who suffer for the terrifying sins of others. Some of what I have learned about powerful women from all walks of life is in the following quotation:

As a woman uses power appropriately she experiences an increasing sense of serenity

Carol & Merlin
Carol & Merlin

and balance in her life. She gives to others but is not emptied by the giving. She receives from others but does not empty them. She recognizes that she is responsible for herself. She wants the best for others but does not take away their responsibility for achieving it. She provides support but clearly recognizes the need of the individual to develop her own resource. She respects and facilitates others in their own journeys of self discovery.

A woman who uses power judiciously allows herself to feel joy and sorrow with equal vigor. She expresses righteous anger but is not vindictive. She works toward resolutions in which everyone is a winner. She is motivated by self-expression and creativity rather than competition and greed.

Responsible use of power includes confronting injustices in ways which enhance one’s own dignity and that of the person or persons being confronted. A responsible and powerful woman listens for the truth in criticisms leveled at her with genuine concern and love, but she does not give up her self-worth in the process. She protects herself from those who criticize in an attempt to shame her and make her less of a person. She is willing to acknowledge her mistakes and makes amends when possible. She recognizes her own fears and faces them with confidence and courage. She regularly commits herself to life with a courage she is not always sure she has. (excerpt from Without Consent: How to Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse by Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall & Jeffery Kirkendall)

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I have been blessed to have known many powerful women in my lifetime, and I have learned much that continues to call me to be a better man. What Truth have I discovered and I might share with you? Lean closer dear reader as I tell you with calm confidence , . .

Powerful women can lead this world to greater Compassion and Justice than men can.

Powerful women are the key to a healthy future for humankind and mother earth.

Making Memories
Making Memories

Hey, . . just one man’s opinion. . . .

about women.

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3 thoughts on “Powerful Women”

  1. Will keep it simple. Of all your writing I have read over the years, I find this one the best! Where your feelings are expressed clearly and directly, but one gets the real strength of that feeling with picture of you both standing beneath a tree. ..Rocky

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